Month 9, week 36 or day 252 of the long and rocky road of my pregnancy! It feels like I’ve been pregnant for 100 years. I cant clearly remember my pre-preggo life anymore BUT still cant quite picture my new life – post sprog. So what does one do in a life limbo? #BLOG
I’ve never blogged before, so bear with me – Hopefully I will get the hang of it. I’ve never been a mother before either, so bless the baby, it will have to bear with me too!
Having had a difficult pregnancy to date, I’ve struggled to find strong common ground with traditional yummy mummies. I haven’t had the pregnancy ‘glow’ I was promised (try spots and dry skin instead!?) It hasn’t been the ‘most wonderful’, ‘most natural’ feeling, or a time when I was able to ‘just get on with things’. Instead, I’ve had chronic migraine for over five months and a complete and total inability to function like a normal human being.
I’ve had very little empathy from yummy mummies but I still love the concept. Fair play to any female who looks that good when bloated, hormonal and sore – but its not not real life for me. Its great to have an ideal for Pinterest purposes but it can create unrealistic and damaging expectations. Why am I not living in a Valencia filter town house, still at the gym every week, with perfect hair and a pre-planned baby wardrobe stuffed with designer gear!? I must not be doing it right…..
Despite my longed for pregnancy not being what I expected (or what the films promised me!?) I don’t quite fit in with ‘yucky mummies’ either. I do love gin, I do love wine and I’m a huge fan of chill wear… but I’m also a big fan of a ‘re-frame’ and trying to keep it positive too. I love that the yuckies #keepitreal but I want to keep it both real AND realistic. Constantly highlighting issues and generally portraying motherhood as a total hassle (when you clearly adore your children!) could become a negative cycle.
The ‘gin o’clock’ theory and the ‘picture perfect mother’ seem to be at opposite ends of the motherhood spectrum but both have pros and cons! I admire any mummy brave enough to do AND to share what works for them. We should encourage each other and put labels and camps aside. I don’t think one concept needs to fit all and doesn’t fit me. Everyone should do what works for them – guilt free! I don’t think I will be a yummy or yucky – I plan is to steal with pride from all camps, and be a #MiddleGroundMummy.